Helpful Co-Parenting Tools

Effective co-parenting can be difficult during and after a family law matter. Fortunately, there are tools available to help parents navigate this uneven terrain.  Here are two popular options, along with some information about the benefits of each:

  • Our Family Wizard (a few key features):
    • Coordinate shared custody parenting time schedules while keeping accurate records.
    • Request parenting time trades through the calendar trade function.
    • Maintain records of splitting of expenses with the expense log.
    • Parents can take advantage of the program’s message board.
    • For more insight into Our Family Wizard, please visit their website, here
  • 2houses (a few key features):
    • Manage custody calendars while storing expenses (plus send payment requests) and articles posted in the journal.
    • Make a change request and receive a pre-formatted notification to ask the other parent to accept or suggest an alternative date.
    • Information bank keeps track of necessary addresses, medical information and documents for school, insurance, etc.
    • Share family photos.
    • Log messages using 2houses private message feature.
    • It’s free!
    • For more insight into 2houses, please visit their website, here.

What to Expect at a Settlement Conference

The court process can be stressful at times.  This stress can be reduced if you have a good idea of what to expect during each step along the way.  A key part of any litigated family law case is a settlement conference.  Settlement conferences may also be referred to as ‘Case Management Conferences’ in St. Charles County or ‘Pre-Trial Conferences’ or ‘Status Conferences’ in St. Louis City.

A settlement conference is a meeting between the Judge and the attorneys.   Settlement conferences are required per local court rule and if one is not conducted, the case may be dismissed.  This meeting generally takes place in the Judge’s chambers, in private, and without the parties.  In some rare cases the judge will conduct a settlement conference in the courtroom.

During this meeting, the parties will sit separately, either in the courtroom or in the hallway outside of the courtroom.  Parties are generally not required to talk to each other unless they wish to.  Except in rare cases, neither party will meet the Judge at this conference.

At a settlement conference, the attorneys update the Judge on the status of settlement discussions and ask for feedback on outstanding issues.  Most judges will give some feedback with the intention of helping the parties work towards settlement. A settlement conference, by its nature, is an informal meeting designed to help move the parties toward a resolution.

A settlement conference is different from a trial or a hearing in that the Judge will not be making any decisions or entering any orders regarding a case at that time unless the parties can agree. When a party wishes for the judge to make a decision on an outstanding issue, a formal written request must generally be made and a hearing must be set on a different docket than that of the settlement conference, per local rules of the court.

Generally, unless an emergency situation arises, these formal requests would not be placed on a docket for a hearing until a settlement conference has occurred. The next steps following the conference will depend on the outcome of the discussions at the settlement conference.  These steps may include additional formal discovery (i.e. information gathering) and continued settlement negotiations.

The court, in an effort to continue to move cases forward, will most likely set a case for an additional settlement conference to review the status of the matter.  The court may also set a trial date, generally several months away (depending on the case) to allow time for settlement possibilities.  If a settlement is reached before the trial date, the judgment will be entered at a brief hearing and, generally, no trial will be necessary.

Be aware this is a general outline and every situation is unique.  If you have questions about your individual situation, please contact an attorney.  This post should not be considered legal advice.